Some people who stay silent. It may be bad experiences with social life or maybe they think, they might offend people with their spoken words as they don’t know the tact how to talk to people with proper filter, and they end up being rude or offend people. Or might be you think no one will understand you because your ideas are different. Guess what every different idea made the world. People with the same ideas are part of the rat race.
Whatever the reason behind your not to share your thought with people, it is harming you at last. You’re maybe thinking how am I harming myself, Even I am not saying a word to anyone. I am not even offending anyone.
You’re wrong here. I am saying that because I experienced it. Yes I was like that. I used to think your intellect and body gestures can communicate and I don’t had to say anything, and yes I was not good with small talks or social gatherings because of some old bad experiences of my life. Yes I was kind of right on intellect and gestures And it helped me a lot. But sharing your mind gives you an upper hand on others. No matter how intelligent or higher intellect you have, if you don’t share with people then you are like diamond in a cave. Precious but no one knows about is. All great leaders do that to connect with their audience. And that makes them better people in whom peoples can trust.
& that means there are multiple benefits of speaking your mind
Recent research shows that there is only one skill is which is most important to be successful in life and that is, how you communicate and share your ideas with others. That’s how most successful people achieved their goals.
But you know what makes communication and what is the base of the communication. That is understanding. If you can’t understand the people you are communicating with you will end up get offended or getting him or her offended.
At last the basic step to understand people properly is to speak your mind. When you share your ideas or some experience of your life, you are sharing a unique perspective of your life, it says about you, what kind of people you are and help others to understand you. But you should also understand others means also listen to them to have a smooth conversation.
2. You’ll feel confident
Everyone has different perspective of their own. Some people love to live alone and some need friends and people around them.
No matter what perspective you have, Every perspective has their pro and con.
But mostly you will see the peoples with surrounded by people are more confident, You know why ?? Because they speak their mind with peoples and when they do so then people who have the same perspective as them connects with them and share their ideas and experience. Human nature is that, when we are with peoples like our mentality. We prosper and get more confident.
On the other hand If you think you have higher intellect than others and no one can understand you, believe me with this mentality you can’t get what you want in life, because you want success in life, and think what is the definition of success in your life, that maybe money or fame or knowledge. That is all related to humans. So understanding humans is important for that you must have self-confidence. And that will come when you connect with and share your perspective, intellect and experience of life.
3. Suppressing is Bottling you up
There are multiple languages in the world. Our ancestors made languages to express our feeling and speak our mind.
Sometimes we stop ourselves to express our feelings, as per they might be offensive to others and that is absolutely correct to have a filter within conversation, It is called suppressing your thoughts but if we do this filter tact every time or most of the time, This suppressing can start bottling you up with thoughts which can end up overthinking, stress, low self-esteem or might be migraine.
These things can end up bursting at someone not even related to it or unexpectedly which can leads to bad decision or ruining your relationships.
For example- Your boss keep taunting you about some failure and you keep that happening, But it starts you bottling up. When you go home, you suddenly start yelling over your wife or partner. But he or she is not even related to this matter. Now the decision is yours, if you want to share your feelings with someone to unload that bottle or ruin your life by keep doing this.
4. Refine Relationships
Backbone of any relationship is Empathy. If you heard these things like “you don’t understand me”, “you don’t know how I feel” or “you will never know what I am going through”. Then your relationship is lack of empathy.
Lacking of empathy is the most common and severe problem in relationship.
Think this way – Empathy, It is related to understanding each other and admire each other’s perspective, we covered understanding previously above, But Empathy needs to understand others perspective and admire it by speaking up your mind. When your partner does something special for you give them some complements, It will encourage them to do so. and opens up the doors of their heart where you can share your intimate moments of your life.
Or in case of something you don’t like, You must speak up otherwise this suppressed feelings only bottling you up and leads you towards sourness in relationship or breakup.
5. Good for all
As I mentioned, Some people hesitate to express themselves because they don’t want to hurt or offend someone, But deep inside they know they are doing favor to themselves as if they offend someone that could create some undesirable situation what they don’t want, or they don’t want any denials
This is kind of selfish and good until it is not effecting someone else. In the critical condition where your thoughts maybe work as a solution or save someone’s life and you can end up as a powerful leader, even then you are not spoken what you think then you must improve your thought process
Because at last in humanity, the main motto is Greater good for all.